Unearthing Buried Treasure: Regos Now Open for IGNITE CAMP!

I’m just sitting in the Hobart bus mall typing this. It’s one of the places I am most inspired. I love thinking about God and being surrounded by people that he loves.

You know, we find ourselves in a position of influence, which flows from our significance in Christ. There is nothing insignificant about your life and who you are. You are unique for a reason and you will reach people that no one else will reach. It is a lie to think that you are just another person, or even just another Christian. God created you and I as individuals within his family, each with a specific plan and purpose for our lives, which only we can fulfil (through Christ). One of the beautiful and completely amazing things about our Father God is that he never makes mistakes, and he never overlooks or devalues one person. Not once. Not ever.

As I sit here, I’m surrounded by a heap of young people. I know most of us have had a bit of trouble filling in our recent census, but in our last one (2011), there were 82 007 people aged 12 to 25 years recorded statewide. This group represented 16.6 per cent of the total population of Tasmania. At this time, the Local Government Area with the highest proportional population of young people aged 12 to 25 was Hobart (19.8 per cent). How incredible! There is something so special about young people.

I don’t think I’ve ever met a group of people so creative, so compassionate, so adventurous, so willing to take risks, so innovative, and often swept up in some kind of relentless chaos or struggle. Much the same as in my own life, I see beauty and glory, but also the rough edges and the effects of sin. I think that’s exactly how it is with buried treasure; it is destined for glory but it needs uncovering. It always takes some work to unearth and restore a treasure to its original purpose.

“I will break down gates of bronze
And cut through bars of iron.
I will give you hidden treasures,
Riches stored in secret places,
So that you may know that I am the Lord,
The God of Israel, who summons you by name.”

The next generation is a treasure trove waiting to be uncovered and unlocked.
God has always been passionate about these ones.
Throughout the ages, the uncovering and unlocking has been a team effort.
We have a unique part to play.
We are the ones who dig and uncover as we simultaneously partner with the Master Locksmith who knows the combination to every lock on every treasure chest of every one in this next generation.
Our job is to make a way for God to do what only he can do.

“God says, “Rebuild the road!
Clear away the rocks and stones
So my people can return from captivity.”

Youth ministry is the real deal, and it is the heart of the Father.
Jesus came to seek and to save the lost. When he saves us, it is far from a slight adjustment. It is the complete transference from a place so deathly dark into the Kingdom of pure light. He saw treasure in us and paid a high price to bring us back to our original glory.

As guardians of the next generation (and that is what we are), may we believe that to truly value a person is to expect greatness to burst forth and make room for it. It may be in seed form, or be buried under years of struggle and apparent chaos, but God has placed treasure inside each young person and we one the ones who must expect it and prepare for it.

Potency. If there is one word I might use to describe the next generation, I would probably describe them as POTENT.
What I love about this concept, is that in its very nature, the potent article possesses the preexisting ingredients ready to be brought into existence by an environment or culture which matches perfectly with its needs to grow into what is was always meant to be.

I believe this is the way God has designed us, and this is what we are called to do in youth ministry. We want to facilitate a culture and environment where young people can get to know Jesus and become all they were created to be. We owe this to the teenagers we know and love, and we also owe that same opportunity to the rest of the 20% of Hobart’s population who are young people. We owe it to our Father who sent his only Son to die in our place and the place of the other 80,000 young people in Tasmania. Heaven will be missing its full inheritance if we are the only ones who experience the love of God. We have to pave the way for these generations following.

There are many ways of facilitating this, but our fast approaching youth camp is a practical example of providing the very kind of environment we have been taking about.

IGNITE CAMP is undoubtedly one of our favorite weeks of the whole year. I cannot say how much the experience of camps like this shaped my life for the better when I was a teenager. I went away changed after each camp. Over the years, there are so many people who can tell of what God has done in their lives and the lives of family and friends on a youth camp. What can sometimes take months or years, God can do in a moment at camp.

Ignite Camp continues to be the focus of much prayer and planning from an amazing group of leaders who are passionate about the next generation. We are particularly focused on providing a safe place where teenagers can encounter God for themselves, build friendships, experience a sense of family, and have copious amounts of fun.

As we have chosen to lengthen Ignite Camp to four days this year, we’ve therefore needed to increase registration price to cover costs. Obviously it’s not always easy to come up with money for a camp registration, so we are also looking for some generous souls to sponsor some of our young people to attend.

We don’t want money to stop any young person from coming. We really want to give an opportunity for teenagers to get to know Jesus. Four days without distractions, four days pursuing Jesus together. We’d like to invite you to seize the day and contribute financially to sponsoring teenagers to get to camp. I know there are many young people who will be eternally grateful… quite literally.

This is the perfect opportunity to partner with God and see treasures once hidden, shine forth. Let’s give this generation the opportunity to encounter the one who loves them more than they realize.

– Jemimah Priest

Expect to Encounter

Have you ever heard the saying “it’s not about the destination, it’s about the journey”?
Well, with respect to motivational posters everywhere, I would like to politely disagree. It is absolutely about the destination.
Let me tell you about a recent journey of ours, and perhaps you will understand where I’m coming from.
It may not have been the longest journey of my life, but it certainly felt like it, in fact, even making it onto the plane felt like the longest journey!

Our story starts in a nursing home in Christchurch, New Zealand, where my husband’s grandfather, who had been incapacitated for about 9 years in hospital, passed away peacefully. Following this, many discussions amongst the Australian branch of the family tree took place and eventually it was decided that we would make the trip to the funeral, which was in three days.

My husband is a travel agent (remember this fact for a later part of the story), so flights were booked quickly and we were all set.
Until the next day – 2 days out from leaving – when we realised that our daughter, three months old, did not have a passport.

There was no way I was ready to leave her behind. But no problem, we decided we could just get some photos done and take her birth certificate the passport office and they could rush through a priority one on compassionate grounds. No problem.

PROBLEM: that was when we realised her birth certificate had never arrived.

No problem, I could just reapply for a birth certificate through the “Service Tas Express Service” and they could send it straight to births, deaths and marriages that day. Excellent.
Until they told me “your daughter’s birth certificate will be ready on Monday.” Flight was Thursday, that comes before Monday!

It turns out that internal mail from the “Express Service” at ST in Hobart to BDM in Rosny takes 3 days (to make a 10 minute trip!). Eventually, I was able to convince an army of bureaucrats that I could speed this process up by simply driving the application there myself. We got the birth certificate that day.

So with 2 days to go, we have photos and the birth certificate and I rock up to the passport office with cautious optimism. However, I had forgotten we needed one of our passports in order to get one for Eleanor. I realised this with 45 minutes to go until the PP office closed.

Enter Katie Swift, hero of the hour, who braved our very large dog, broke into our house, rifled through our wardrobe and drove like the clappers with our passports to the city. She made it in time, so all good. Right?

Wrong. We needed someone to guarantee the photos and Eleanor’s details. I was back on the phone to beg one of Simon’s colleagues to leave work and come and verify that I wasn’t trying to steal a baby. Although why ANYONE would want to take a baby that wasn’t even theirs on a plane is beyond me!

Meanwhile my husband, remember what he does for a living again, informs me that we need to get the passport processed even faster, because he accidentally booked the flight out of the wrong airport!

So the application is in. The passport office is closed. We have done it. NO. The phone rings again, it’s Sandra from the PP office; apparently I have put the wrong date in a page of the form and I have to go back and fix it, she agreed to wait for me, bless you Sandra.

Finally, an hour after the PP office should be closed, Eleanor’s application was complete, but, Sandra informed me “there’s no guarantee it will be processed in time!”

Thanks for nothing, Sandra.

In fact, it was processed in time, and Eleanor’s passport was the fastest passport ever processed by the Hobart office. It was completed just under 2 hours before our flight was supposed to leave. Perfect.

Except for one thing: Eleanor’s passport was TOO NEW! When we arrived, we found that the passport had not yet been loaded into the national database of non-criminals. So we couldn’t check in. No problem, we were told, there must be a way to over-ride.
It became apparent as the flight we were supposed to be on was called, that if there was a way to over-ride, this employee had no idea what it was.

In the end, we checked in for the first leg and prayed that by the time we arrived for the international connection, the passport would be in the database!

Thankfully, it was. Finally, we were able to get on the plane. Eleanor celebrated by screaming all the way to Christchurch and pooping through her cloths twice.

I was pretty excited to touch down in Christchurch. Let me tell you, it was definitely about the destination.

Worship is a journey. Revelation is a destination. Your encounter with God is not over until there is change, breakthrough, transformation.

If you haven’t read it recently, check out Psalm 24. It’s a psalm of ascension: coming into the presence of God. The mountain of the Lord, Mt Zion, was the seat of the first temples, where the priests entered God’s presence on behalf of the people of Israel. The mountain is a Holy place, where David experiences God’s presence, much like Moses did when he climbed Mt Sinai to sit in God’s presence on behalf of the people.

He has made and sustains this incredible world; He has gathered those who seek Him and made a way for us to become His family. He is waiting, expecting an encounter with us! We need to be a church who expect to encounter God in the every day!

So, how do we live expecting to encounter?

Firstly, we need to take authority over the atmosphere.
David began this psalm with a declaration:
“The earth is the Lord’s and everything in it.”

When we expect to encounter God, we declare that over our lives as well. I remember when I babysat as a teenager, once the kids were in bed, the house, the TV, the snacks, were mine for the next few hours; I could spread my homework out, kick my shoes off, make mess, I didn’t expect the parents home for awhile. So in that time, it didn’t look like the house was theirs and everything in it! BUT, as the time approached when I expected them home, I would tidy up, I would put my stuff away, I would do the dishes, the house would look like it was theirs again. My expectation controlled the atmosphere.

Does your life declare that “the earth is the Lord’s and everything in it?” Are you waiting for Him to walk in at any moment? Are you ready for an encounter?What is controlling your atmosphere? Fear? Pride? Hurt? Or faith? Expectation?
If we want to live life encountering God, let’s take every opportunity to make faith declarations that we are His.

Jesus said in Matthew 28:18 “All authority under heaven and earth has been given to me; GO therefore and make disciples!”
He passes His authority onto us with the expectation that we will do something with it!

In my classroom I have the authority. I’ve been given the authority to be in charge, but it’s not automatic, trust me, I’ve seen enough out of control classrooms to know that!
If I don’t make it clear to the students that I’m in charge, I won’t be!

James 4:7 makes resisting the devil part and parcel of encountering God.
Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you.”
Submit to God, Resist the devil, draw near to God.
The devil has no choice to recognise your authority, but only if you USE it.

When we expect to encounter God, we repent and receive from Him. In other words, let’s get wet! Repentance is not a one-time thing. At least for me, it’s an almost constant part of life! Repentance is how we become that one with clean hands and a pure heart, able to come into God’s presence.
The apostle Paul sums this up well in 1 Timothy 1
“I thank Christ Jesus our Lord, who has strengthened me, that He considered me faithful and appointed me to service. I was formerly a blasphemer, a persecutor, and a violent man; yet because I had acted in ignorance and unbelief, I was shown mercy. And the grace of our Lord overflowed to me, along with the faith and love that are in Christ Jesus.
This is a trustworthy saying, worthy of full acceptance: Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners, of whom I am the worst. But for this very reason I was shown mercy, so that in me, the worst of sinners, Christ Jesus might display His perfect patience, as an example to those who would believe in Him for eternal life.”

Jesus has poured out grace over all of us, but refusing to acknoweldege and deal with sin, which is what repentance is, not just saying sorry, is like having a permanent umbrella up in that downpour of grace.

Imagine standing in the rain with an umbrella, you can see the rain, it’s all around you, but you are unaffected; it can’t change you!
When we don’t repent, it doesn’t change the power or potency of God’s grace, He is still who He is, but we can’t be transformed by Him.

Let’s all get drenched in the outpouring of his grace! Let’s be brave and throw off everything that hinders and the sin which so easily entangles. (Hebrews 12)
Your encounter with God is not over until you are free from whatever is entangling you, so keep bringing it back to the cross, even if it is every day, because it’s not about the journey, it’s about the destination and our destination is total freedom.

Living with the expectation of encounters with God means being committed to seek His Face.
“They will receive blessing from the Lord
and vindication from God their Savior.
Such is the generation of those who seek him,
who seek your face, God of Jacob.[b
We need a bit of effort and a bit of boldness to seek the face of God.” (PS24:5-6)

To put it simply, you don’t seek something if you already know where it is.

Everyone has mild superpowers, things that are a little bit magical about them. One of my very mild superpowers is knowing where everything in our house at any given time, which, given we have a 2 year old who likes to help put things away in weird places, is very impressive to my husband.
After Simon has searched the house fruitlessly for at least 3 minutes, he will usually admit defeat and ask me if I have seen some missing item (usually his phone, or a sippy cup for Jasper).
Usually, I don’t need to search, because I know where it is. It’s familiar.

We don’t seek the familiar.

Seeking the face of God means always going into unchartered territory. It means facing the unfamiliar all the time. We will spend an eternity discovering who God is! It can also be an uncomfortable experience, because God is a radiant light and radiant lights, have a habit of showing up flaws and imperfections.

John 1:5
“The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness can never extinguish it.”

Coming into the presence of God might make us feel exposed, because we cannot hide the dark parts of our life, but God’s heart is not to expose, but to heal those areas. His light overcomes the darkness, His perfect love drives out all fear.

In Exodus 34, we read that when Moses would come down from Mt. Sinai, which he would climb to represent the people in the presence of God, his face would visibly glow. When we seek the face of God, we need to be prepared that we will be transformed.

A life which expects to encounter God is an open life. There are always going to be barriers to encountering God. If it were easy, then the metaphor in the Bible would not be climbing a mountain!
“Lift up your heads, you gates;
be lifted up, you ancient doors,
that the King of glory may come in.” (PS24:7)

What are the barriers for you? Is it doubt – questions you can’t answer? Is it disappointment from past experiences? Is it fear of what people think? Is it comfort?

Revelation 3:20
Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me.

Jesus is knocking; it is always up to us to open the door if we want to encounter Him. He would not be on your doorstep is He wasn’t expecting an encounter with you!

Sometimes we need to open the same door again and again; four times in this psalm, David calls for the ancient gates to open up.
Ancient gates can be sticky, rusty even. The residue of hurt, disappointment, bitterness and wrong mindsets makes it a challenge for us to stay open for God, but Jesus will always be outside that door waiting for us to encounter him afresh.

If we are going to continually encounter God, we need to keep asking who He is. When the door knocks, the appropriate response is ‘who’s there?’ Twice in this psalm, David repeats the question “who is this King of Glory?” Normally in poetry, which is what the psalms are, a question is rhetorical, it doesn’t require an answer, but in this case, the question demands an answer.

In fact, it is one of the most important questions you will ever encounter. It is a question that will give your life purpose. It is a question I have devoted my whole life to answering:

Who is this King of Glory?
Who is Jesus Christ?

It’s the same questions the disciples asked on the boat when Jesus silenced the storm:
“Who is this man?”

Nothing is more important than know Him. The more you know Him, the more you understand how much he wants to draw near to you. Let’s be people who continually ask Who is Jesus Christ?
Let’s be people who continue to expect to encounter him.

– Jen Grubb

A Note From Dave

Hi church,
You’ve probably said or heard someone else say, “they’re just all talk”. No one wants to be known as just a windbag; talk can be cheap and empty.
“For the kingdom of God is not based on talk but on power.”
(I Cor 4:20 AMP)
The Kingdom is so much more than philosophy, more than rhetoric, more than a campaign.
It is power: the power that raised Jesus from the the dead; the power that spoke the universe into being; the power that restores broken lives; the power that heals the sick; the power of God.
It’s the power to call into being that which does not yet exist.

“As it is written, “A father of many nations have I made you” in the presence of Him whom he believed, even God, who gives life to the dead and calls into being that which does not exist. (ROMANS 4:17 NASB)
 
Recently we’ve talked about moving from what we’ve got to what we want, moving to a time of miracles and multiplication.
Perhaps there’s another move we can make:
To move from talk to power.
When our lives are motivated by the example of Christ and our words originate from the heart of God,
they have the power to not only mentally illuminate, but also to bring salvation. We’re not about a whole lot of talk but… living in God’s power.
 
See you at one of our services this weekend.
Ps. Dave

A Note From Dave: Sunday July 31

Hi all,

In engaging the power of the big ask, asking God for what we want and not being intimidated by the perception that our question is a “stupid one”, there will be noises, voices and thoughts that we may need to shut out.

“When they arrived at the house, Jesus wouldn’t let anyone go in with him except Peter, John, James, and the little girl’s father and mother.”
Luke 8:51(NLT)

When Jesus arrived at the house, he was confronted by the sound of mourners and even ridicule. Some said “you’re too late, as if you can do anything now”, because mourning proclaims and builds an atmosphere of pain and death.

While there is a time for mourning, it’s important that we don’t allow an atmosphere of death and ridicule to lock us out of the miracles that God wants to pour out in our world. Jesus wisely took only those who would believe with him into the room; when the girl was raised they came back to crowd.

There will be moments, times and even whole seasons during whichwe need to lock out certain voices, ways of thinking and atmospheres, if we want to move to a season of miracles.

Let’s be the Peter, James and John-type people, who will stand in faith with others as we walk into a season of miracles and multiplication!

Keep being a thermostat as we set an atmosphere of faith across our Church family and as we meet on Sunday.

Keep making pre-service prayer a priority and believing for miracles and salvation.

See you soon,
Ps. Dave

A Note From Dave: Kingdom Foundation Update

Hi church,

Kingdom Foundation Month has been fantastic at Energizer Church this year; we are so proud of your generosity! Our theme has remained this year: ‘building the church and blessing the community’ and your contribution will go towards doing just that! Local school outreaches, freeing young people from poverty in India, training pastors in Nepal, seeing our vision for a new church home become a reality, creating opportunities for people to encounter God at youth camp and in our new service: all these aspects of our Kingdom Foundation Vision WILL change lives, so once again, thank you!

We’ve seen great momentum in our Kingdom Foundation giving; so far we’ve seen over $35,000.00 donated and it’s not over yet! This Sunday, we conclude the month’s focus, so if you’ve been praying and considering your contribution, this is a great week to get involved in something incredible. We will continue to update you on the progress over the next 12 months.

Remember that together we can be part of a miracle, together we can achieve so much more than we could do on our own! It’s never about the amount; it’s about the heart. It is about being part of something bigger than ourselves – it is LOVE in ACTION. It’s about leaning in and seeing what God will do as we step out in faith. What part will you play? We encourage you to be part of this great Kingdom Foundation vision.

We are believing for far greater things ahead than anything we have seen before; we invite you to activate your faith and join us as we work to bring God’s Kingdom to our world!

See you in church,

Ps. Dave

A New Sound at Energizer Church

A good song really is an amazing thing. There’s nothing quite like the feeling of being united in song with other people. We are incredibly diverse, with completely unique experiences, opinions, tendencies and beliefs, but somehow, music unites us, stripping away our many differences. Few art forms allow so easily for the transference of meaning and emotion between souls as well as the song.

In The Church, the song is given even more responsibility, acting not only as a unifier of people, but also as a vehicle through which we can engage with God in spirit, mind and body. What an amazing gift God has given us in the song!

For so many of us, at specific times certain songs have helped us express something to God that we might not have been able to articulate otherwise. There are always amazing songs being written across the global church and, often we can find songs that feel really relevant for where we are at as individuals and as a local church in one corner of the world; Energizer Creative’s Songwriting Workshop is about developing our ability as a group of believers to express what God is doing among us – specifically.

We don’t just want new tunes to sing; we want to chronicle in song the journey God has us on, as a church. We want songs that celebrate our victories, embrace our challenges, speak prophetically to our church and our city and create moments of intimacy with God that are truly ours.

The format of the night is not so much about the generation of new ideas, but the shaping and polishing of ideas that our people have already partially formed. As such, each time the night rolls around, we’ll aim to get one to three songs from a basic idea to a fully formed song, ready to go for Sunday!

It’s about what’s in our hands: while we don’t have fancy recording studios or full-time Creative staff, we’ve got some great lyrical and musical minds, a physical space and some time set aside. We want it to be a simple process to get songs from sketches to finished products.

The Process:
If you’ve got a song, or even half a song, here’s how Songwriting Workshop can get it finished and ready to be used on a Sunday:
Send a demo and chart (chords and words) to me on email (simongrubb@gmail.com.
I’ll listen/read it and either send it back to you (and possibly on to someone else) with suggested additions or changes. Once the idea is ready, we’ll take the demo and chart to Songwriting Workshop for full-band arrangement and basic recording.
Finished songs will be checked by senior church leadership and then loaded into the database with recording and charts, ready for use in services!

I’m excited to get going and get some homegrown songs written from the heart of our church into our amazing services. I really believe God can use these songs, as yet unheard, to minister to his people, to reach the lost, to change the world.

“Sing to the Lord a new song; sing to the Lord, all the earth.”
‭‭Psalm‬ ‭96:1‬ ‭NIV‬‬

– Simon Grubb
Energizer Creative

A Note From Dave: Sunday July 17

Hi all,
We all use various technology in our daily lives. Our phones, computers and even watches are capable of performing so many tasks for us. So often, what they can achieve for us is not limited by their power or design, but rather by our knowledge of their capabilities and operation.

Most people only use a small percentage of the features contained in their smart phone.

Isn’t it amazing when someone shows you a new feature that completely revolutionises the way you use your smart phone?

Similarly, God has given us more than we could ever hope for or even imagine. In other words, what we have been given is beyond our capacity and understanding.

He has also given us his Spirit, so we can know and understand the power of what we’ve been given.

“And we have received God’s Spirit
(not the world’s spirit), so we can know the wonderful things God has freely given us. ”
(1 Co 2:12 NLT)

The Holy Spirit leads us towards truth, knowledge, understanding and “Knowing” which brings clarity. Inversely, the spirt of this world leads people towards lies, deception and confusion.

The Holy-Sprit within us allows to not only punch above our weight, but live at a level beyond what we’ve ever thought or imagined.

Let’s keep expecting great things this weekend at Church as we continue our Kingdom Foundation month.

Ps. Dave

A God Story: Little Prayers

‘Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.”‘
Matthew 19:14

I was raised in a great home, but not one where faith was prioritised. Until I was fifteen, I knew nothing of a God who loved me and would go to great lengths to have relationship with me. Overnight, my discovery of Jesus changed the direction of my life. I don’t know what it’s like to go through childhood with an awareness of the spiritual world. For this reason, I sometimes feel I’ll-equipped to teach my children what it means to have a relationship with God.

As parents, isn’t it true that sometimes we are hyper-aware of the areas we feel like we are failing, or not enough, that we miss the great things we have done for our kids?

Completely by accident, I discovered last week that I have in fact done something great for my little boy: I have given him the Church. At times, it is really hard to be an involved, serving, leading, member of the church with little ones, but one simple conversation with my two year old, reminded me that it is so worth it.

While playing with his cars (an activity that occupies around 75% of his waking hours), Jasper looked up at me and, quite matter-of-factly, stated:
“Mummy, I can talk to God. It’s called PRAYING. We do it at church and I talk to God in my bed. At church they teach me praying and I talk to God about you, mama”.

He’s two.

This is the strength of the local church: in the area where I feel like I am letting this amazing child down, some other beautiful soul, serving downstairs on a Sunday, unbeknownst to me, has taught him to commune with his creator. My little boy is praying for his mama.

This child has been loved and encouraged by the church family since he was born, he has received abundantly more input, perspective and care than we could have given on our own. I truly believe that my greatest strength as a mother is that I do not even try to carry the burden of raising little people, little disciples, on my own, but that I give them the Body of Christ as their family. ymMy children will never remember a time when they were not part of the family of God. In my family, the will be the first generation that I know of who can say this!

Church can be hard, emotionally, logistically, even financially, especially with little ones, but it is a vehicle through which God redeems generations; it is a place to give and receive encouragement (and parents of toddlers need PLENTY of that!). It is a blessing to belong in a local church and I am so thankful that Energizer Church loves my children so well.

– Jen Grubb

A Father’s Love: A God Story from Tash

My father left the family home when I was two and my sister was one. My Mother re-married and went on to have three more children. My childhood was not a happy one; it was marred with years of physical and mental abuse, at the hands of my step-father (at the time). I never knew the love of a father, until I gave my heart to The Lord.

Around six months ago, I received a message from my father, asking to meet for a coffee. This message came as a huge surprise to me, as I had only had very limited contact with him over the last 40 years. Even though, at that stage, he was not a part of my life, I had been trying hard in the last five years or so to honor my father, though honoring him hasn’t always been easy for me. However, I would continue to try because he’s my father – not because he was there for me, or because he taught me great life lessons or because he’s a great role model. Unfortunately, none of that has been true in my life.

Despite this, God commands me to honor my father and, present or not, perfect or not, my father contacted me, wanting to be a part of my life and my children’s lives, so I choose to let that be enough.

Our first meeting was a little awkward for me, but my son, Connor instantly took a liking to him. This encouraged me to follow up with another coffee date, and things very quickly improved from there. I became very comfortable sharing my life, past and present with him; I met his lovely wife, and can now say he is a big part of my life.

One day my father ended our conversation with “I love you, sweetheart.” I don’t know how long it took me to respond because I had to absorb the moment. I had never heard my father say that to me before. Had I always had the love of my father? What difference would that have made in my life had I known? How would my life be different today?

The whole experience has made me think about our heavenly Father’s love for us, how much he loves us, how much he treasures us and how his love for us never fails.

Many people struggle to believe God loves them because of dysfunctional parents. What about you? Do you have emotional wounds resulting from your upbringing? If so, such hurts can block your understanding of God’s unconditional love. I encourage you to not only to move towards forgiveness but also to reject unhealthy mindsets you may have adopted because of trauma.

Believe the following:

Your heavenly Father will never abandon you. Circumstances never affect God’s nature. He will always, always, always stay the same.

“I will never fail you, I will never abandon you” (Heb. 13:5, NLT).
Your heavenly Father will never verbally criticize you. The Lord is a loving Father who speaks tenderly to His children, and even when He must discipline us, it is for our good.
“ …. for the lord is full of tenderness and mercy.” (John 5:11, NLT)
Your heavenly Father will never abuse you. God is not an abuser. He is a good Shepherd who protects us. If you were abused by someone, either physically, sexually or verbally, recognize that God did not approve of that behavior and He wants to heal you from the pain of that experience.

Your heavenly Father will never withhold affection from you.: God is crazy about you and He wants to shower you with love! As a believer in Christ you always have access to the Father through the Holy Spirit . He wants you to be close to Him.

No matter what fatherly wounds you may have suffered, and no matter how long ago the pain entered, God can heal your heart and fill in the gaps. Reach out and receive the Father’s embrace.

– Tash Ellis